Girls,
I have trouble putting you two together to watch a movie with me these days.
This is not a complain. This is marking of a milestone of your development, for both of you. Nana is ready to grow up, to test her power, and to claim her rights. You need to reduce the use of your kidlike method for resolving issues -- using physical fights. And Lily need to advance towards adulthood, treating things with more fairness and loving intention. You need to acquire these quality to properly treat your loved ones in the future, your husband and your children.
I am not going to force you to tolerate each other. But I will try to teach you guys how to find ways to get along with each other. If you both grow towards your next phase of your development, we will be able to find that way. This would be a good learning process. Being able to get along with different people is a truly useful skill that would benefit your entire life.
I am going to be Nana's debating coach, train you both for more precise and fair thinking. I want you both to win your debate with kindness, and lose your debate with gratitude. After all, only sincerity can bring out the truth, only the truth can earn respect and gain you a life long friendship from anyone you want. Only those connection worth your devotion, and only those can support you when you go through hard time.
I'm glad you both are willing to try to use a different manner to communicate. It will be a challenge to learn communication using different method. There will be struggles, I promise. But I would hope to have more and more fun as we get better at it. It will be worthy of the effort. Whatever will be will be. But we are not going to give it up without trying our best.
Maybe this is what Dan meant when he said that I am neglecting you guys. He is right. I should not just let you guys work it out between the two of you. You both don't know enough how to. I should be there guiding you. Your future should not be the product of inexperienced battle. There is a better way to manage our environment, by treating it with kindness, empathy, understanding, acceptance, forgiveness and mercifulness. You will create a warm environment for yourself. This is not to say that you should let undeserving people take advantage of your kindness.
Here is an interesting blog of a related quote from Emerson's "Nominalist and Realist."
http://bostonunitarian.blogspot.com/2012/03/finish-every-day.html
"Finish every day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be cumbered with your old nonsense. This day is all that is good and fair. It is too dear, with its hopes and invitations to waste a moment on yesterdays."
Sherlock Holmes -The Dying Detective
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9gLAd-3H0EU
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6/11/2014 Wednesday
I went to the Secret Science event with Beverly tonight. And the girls end up watching a movie together before going to bed! Lily said that they were watching Sherlock Holmes. I wonder, which one?
